Shaping Your Reflection
People rarely realize it, but we all possess an incredible power: the power of reflection.
I don’t mean this in the sense that we can think back over our pasts and consider our choices. I mean, we can bounce back anything that comes our way, like a game of energy tennis.
In our default state, humans are essentially emotional mirrors; we take on - and reflect back - whatever is sent our way. But we are not simple objects — we thankfully have a choice of what to reflect and what to deflect, and with a bit of practice we can make reflecting or deflecting the appropriate emotions a routine habit.
From the time we are babies we learn to automatically reflect back the emotional energy that comes our way, imitating the facial expressions of those around us, and learning to ‘feel’ what they are feeling. This is an important part of understanding the world around us and coming to terms with our effect on those we care about. If we didn’t feel joy when our parents smiled and cooed, we wouldn’t understand the joy they feel when we smile and cuddle them.
In fact, we learn to effortlessly bounce all feelings and expressions right back. Have you ever found yourself laughing uncontrollably with a friend? When positive energy is fed into the cycle, your reflections can lead to an incredible circle of joy and compassion.
There’s a hazard, though. In the physical world, you would choose to dodge if someone lobbed something particularly nasty at you, but our natural tendency is to ‘catch’ and return negative energy to where it came from.
This can lead to an escalation of anger and frustration, as we have probably all seen in our own lives and in news stories of unchecked anger.
As with many things in life, the first step towards betterment comes with awareness. Once we realize that we have the power to reflect - and the power to deflect - we can choose what to amplify and what to dispel.
We can stay strong in the face of negativity, knowing that what comes our way doesn’t have to become our own. We can instead choose to deflect any nastiness, letting it slip neatly past us without any effect, and consciously send back understanding, love and acceptance, because, when it comes down to it, that is what everyone ultimately wants to feel.